Timing
I happened upon “Love & Sex” (2000) starring Jon Favreau and Famke Janssen on IFC tonight. The movie was a surprisingly good Saturday-night-before-Sunday-workday-nothing-else-to-do activity.
Right at the part where you realize that like all romantic comedies this one is also going to have a happy ending despite whatever plot devices are currently being used to convince you otherwise, Jon’s character says,
“Two people can be perfect for each other but if the timing’s wrong its never going to work out. Bad timing is the reason that most normal people end up single. Weirdos and creeps are single cause they are weird and creepy, but people like us are single because of bad timing.”
I know I’m not creepy. I hope I’m not weird. I guess I just have bad timing. I realize that quotes from romantic comedies are not meant to be taken or treated as definitive truths but there’s something to this. The problem with timing isn’t just where you are and what you’re doing. It’s who you are at that time.
I couldn’t agree more. The impression made by who or what you happen to be at the time you meet someone has everything to do with essence of the “timing” of the moment. People have certain qualities, desires and goals and they want a reasonable mirror of them in a mate. If one doesn’t posess said qualities or display them in an effective manner they will miss the pitch, however that doesn’t necessarily mean they won’t exhibit them later on down the road. But more often than not at that time one has missed the proverbial boat.